When Coaching goes Whacko

I am so excited! I have finally made the plunge and from hence forth, while still offering my services in the top-end corporate events arena, will be offering my time and growing my presence in dynamic life coaching.

Okay, okay, I can hear some of the comments from here! What the fuck does he know about life coaching? Up until just a little while ago, his life was an absolute mess. And now he wants to coach …on what? How to screw up?

Well no, not. Actually on how not to screw up!

I have had my fair share playing that deck, and trust me, I have lived and experienced insane situations that most general mental health practitioners have only learnt about in books.

I was there and became a first-hand expert. I have hungered with streeters and feasted with kings, risen with angels and connived with thieves. I have partied at the pinnacle and have cried in gutters with nothing. And it is because of this very journey I have taken, where I have lived the best and lived the worst - and truly understand the game - that I believe I can add light to lives where many now, hopelessly flounder in the dark.

Please don’t get me wrong. I am certainly not trivializing mental health or the conventional or unconventional treatment thereof. There is obviously need and I would be in no position to adjudicate that need. But from experience living with individuals who suffer from peripheral mental health issues, I have seen it too easy to throw a pill at the problem. How could this hope to address the issues which give rise to the anxiety, depression and negativity? Being numb is not a cure.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if it were that easy. Just take a pill, and not only does it make you feel better, but it mends all the psychological trauma in your head, and fixes you for good. All the pain, heartache, sense of loss, and all the other reasons bouncing around in your brain, which make it so hard to live and deal with yourself, gone forever. But it’s seldom that simple.

I am not a doctor of any sort. But I understand people and love people, and listen to conversations intently. I watch body language and most times, burrowing down into lives and experiences, I manage to get some idea what people are talking about, beyond the scope of their words. I am acutely empathic and can feel people’s vibrations. I can feel their anger, sadness, fear, rage, jealousies and insecurities. And because of so many years experiencing more than the lion’s share of dysfunctionalities in myself, I can now spot the mere shimmer of dysfunctionality at nine hundred paces.

But it’s not just that I can feel or detect bad energy within people. That would not be much help without some form of anecdote – to help dig the poor soul out. I have helped many people over the past 30 years, helping some get through divorces, a few coming off drugs (some even while I was still doing), helping straighten out family and kid issues, helping some make up their minds for career changes or new directions. Many, many, many, around relationships or just helping them feel better about themselves, becoming more motivated and more congenial towards the world at large.

I do not suggest or prescribe medication. It is too easy, and as I am sure many of you reading this will concede, once you start with happy tablets, it is Hades nightmare to stop. And that is not cool. But how are you supposed to stop when all that happens if you complain is your medication is changed? How are you ever supposed to realize what it’s actually doing to you – while you help feed an already bloated pharmaceutical industry?

Wake-up call: Your meds are not going to make the problems go away. All they do is numb the problem and make the mountain higher.

I don’t know if I can help you. I don’t know what your issues, challenges or circumstances are, but why not contact me and set up a free online consultation and have a chat. All it’s going to cost you is a half-hour of your time – which I guarantee will not be boring or a waste of time - and then you can decide from there.